F & D.

"I wish I could find something
to make me feel better
a drug or a drink
something that would make me think its all OK.. "

I have a theory.Rather idealistic.Yet brilliant.It could seem absurd at first.But it all manages to add up.So sample this -


When two people fall in love with each other they appear to know each other deeply, at a more profound level than possible using ordinary methods of communication.They successfully meet each other halfway at that mental plane intersecting their conscious and unconscious mind - the pre-conscious.So they may know things about each other that even their friends or other close family members are not aware of.At the same time they may be completely ignorant of the other person's reality.Because their individual reality is then overshadowed by their shared reality,which really,is in their minds alone.Now, this may be why on breaking-up, the two people involved experience a rude awakening where they finally wake up to the other person's individual reality and recognise no part of it.Also, why countless heartbroken men and women across the world tend to describe their exes as 'acting weirdly' or 'acting like a stranger' after the break-up.This results from not having thought it important enough to come to learn of the the other person's conscious reality.Having chosen instead the connection at the pre-conscious level to sustain all else, which one finds is no more, after the relationship has run its course. 

So basically, the hurt ensues from being left absolutely nothing from the imagined 'all' one had accustomed itself to.This perhaps is also why two lovers are able to build back their relationships by successfully transitioning into friends, if they had originally started out with a friendship.They were already aware of their lover's portrayal of their conscious selves. Even after breaking up, they still retain that preliminary knowledge which provides them with ample structure to build back friendly relationships upon.

Kate Moss/Pete Doherty

I'd have referred to Sid Vicious and Nancy.
But I decided to stick with something more this decade.
Chris Brown/Rihanna is just excessive physical violence for me.
And Cobain of the infamous Cobain-Love duo belongs to Club 27 now. So l'm going to let him rest this one out.